Boundaries

Today, some thoughts on boundaries...

• Communicate your needs without trying to change the other person
• Clearly and objectively state the boundary
• After you have clearly stated your wishes, let it go
• To talk it over and over is acting like an addict
• This keeps the negativity going and literally digs a deeper 'trench' in your brain
• To set a boundary is to find freedom
• Boundaries are best set by love and not revenge or hate
• The objective is for you to find freedom - not to change someone else
• You can be free and happy without that person and/or that situation
• Don't over explain - a clear statement allows others to respond if they wish
• Remember that you are not attempting to control the other person
• Your goal is to control yourself and your circumstances
• Objectively state how you will respond if the boundary is crossed 
• Your goal is peace, and that can only be found by your choices

Yes, setting boundaries allows us to find peace.